After much indecision, a decent amount of research, and most importantly a polling of friends, we had a few names in mind: Clare for a girl, and Reid or Alec for a boy. It was only after our little fellow was born into the water, alert, but very calm, that we looked at each other and agreed, he would be Reid. At the moment, Reid is making our job look easy, sleeping a lot, and demanding little. Life with Reid looks mostly like this:
Liam's middle name, Kiran, went over very well in India, because it's Indian, and we chose it to signify our time and connection to that part of the world. We wanted to give our second child an equally meaningful middle name, one that reflects some of our family's interests and values, and we settled on a Swahili name, one that we've loved and thought of for years now: Amani. Amani means "peace" in Swahili. The source of this name comes ultimately from the two years that Katie spent in Tanzania, from our close friend Modesta, and our adventures and life with her. In 2002 we returned to Tanzania to bring Modesta to India with us. We served as her quasi-parents for four and a half years while she completed her high school studies in Kodaikanal, where we taught. On the left: Modesta just before Katie met her in Tanzania. On the right: Katie and Modesta after her high school graduation.
When we got married, we decided not to change our last names. We both loved the names we were given, and the symbolic connection to the families that we came from, and couldn't imagine asking our partner to change his/hers. When we became pregnant with Liam we thought, "Now what?" Katie suggested that since she got to experience the pregnancy and the birth, that Liam should be a Waring. Then when we were pregnant the second time, we asked ourselves again, "Now what?" We revisited other options - using one of our last names as a shared family name, inventing a new family name, hyphenating - all wonderful choices, for which friends of ours had opted in the past. In the end, however, we decided to keep the last names the three of us already had and to name our second kid "Quirk." This felt balanced. Ultimately, both of our children are half Quirk, half Waring, and mostly themselves.
So, now we're
Katie Quirk, Tim Waring,
Liam Waring and Reid Quirk,
one family with two surnames,
both of which